Unravel & Rise

Have you ever felt like you gave your all to something — a project, a goal — you tried so hard and wanted it to work out, but then BOOM! It exploded right in your face and you failed. Yeah… I know I have. Lol. So here are 5 steps that will undoubtedly help you rebuild your confidence after any setback. Step 1: Seek Understanding Here's the crazy part: we often find that our confidence is shaken after a setback. We internalize the situation so much that we tie our self-perception to it. You start to think "I cannot manage my finances" just because you failed to stick to your budget once or twice. We internalize our setbacks by interpreting them as a reflection of our character or worth, rather than a learning opportunity. Inevitably, this leads to feelings of inadequacy, guilt, and low self-esteem.  So why do we internalize failure so much? Well, for one, we live in a society that idealizes flawlessness.  We live in a world that celebrates only the glitz and glam — nev...

Do you ever catch yourself talking to yourself? Lol. Yes. That is exactly what self-talk is. Self-talk is the act of talking to yourself, be that mentally or aloud. It involves the internal dialogue or thoughts that we have and has the power to either build you up or break you apart.   There are two main self-talk techniques: positive self-talk and negative self-talk. The former fixates on the thoughts that promote optimism, motivation, and self-compassion creating grounds for a positive mindset. In contrast, negative self-talk involves critical, self-deprecating thoughts that can weaken your self-confidence. Here's an example scenario: you are finding it hard to understand Algebra.  Negative self-talk would sound more like this, "I'm so stupid. I'm so slow! Why can't I understand Algebra?"  Positive self-talk would sound like this, "I haven't quite mastered Algebra yet. And that's okay. I'll use this as my opportunity to learn and understand ...