Unravel & Rise

  Do you ever feel like you're the only one who feels too much while they feel… nothing at all? Or like you're the only one putting in the effort and they are just there draining it all out of you? Sort of like, if you were to mirror their behavior, it would all fall apart? Because, in a way, you are the one holding it together. If yes, you are not alone, at least I am with you. I have felt like that so many times it felt normal. So, in this blog post,  I’m exploring why we unconsciously attract emotionally unavailable people — and how to finally choose better.

Being an overly emotional person, I've always been susceptible to easy emotional triggering. It had basically become second nature. Lol. That's when I knew I had to learn  my emotional triggers and regulate myself. Emotional triggers are the things, places, people, or situations that activate intense emotional responses within you.   The root causes of emotional triggers include past experiences, traumas, or deeply held beliefs. All these have the power to instantly activate your "fight-or-flight" response in any situation. When you are triggered, your body and mind immediately decide to either fight or flee as a way of trying to protect you from the perceived danger. You get triggered when present stimuli unconsciously reminds you of past traumatic or difficult events.  When you are triggered, your body and mind immediately decide to either fight or flee as a way of trying to protect you from the perceived danger.  Your brain stores sensory information related...

Do you ever catch yourself talking to yourself? Lol. Yes. That is exactly what self-talk is. Self-talk is the act of talking to yourself, be that mentally or aloud. It involves the internal dialogue or thoughts that we have and has the power to either build you up or break you apart.   There are two main self-talk techniques: positive self-talk and negative self-talk. The former fixates on the thoughts that promote optimism, motivation, and self-compassion creating grounds for a positive mindset. In contrast, negative self-talk involves critical, self-deprecating thoughts that can weaken your self-confidence. Here's an example scenario: you are finding it hard to understand Algebra.  Negative self-talk would sound more like this, "I'm so stupid. I'm so slow! Why can't I understand Algebra?"  Positive self-talk would sound like this, "I haven't quite mastered Algebra yet. And that's okay. I'll use this as my opportunity to learn and understand ...