Unravel & Rise

Have you ever felt like you gave your all to something — a project, a goal — you tried so hard and wanted it to work out, but then BOOM! It exploded right in your face and you failed. Yeah… I know I have. Lol. So here are 5 steps that will undoubtedly help you rebuild your confidence after any setback. Step 1: Seek Understanding Here's the crazy part: we often find that our confidence is shaken after a setback. We internalize the situation so much that we tie our self-perception to it. You start to think "I cannot manage my finances" just because you failed to stick to your budget once or twice. We internalize our setbacks by interpreting them as a reflection of our character or worth, rather than a learning opportunity. Inevitably, this leads to feelings of inadequacy, guilt, and low self-esteem.  So why do we internalize failure so much? Well, for one, we live in a society that idealizes flawlessness.  We live in a world that celebrates only the glitz and glam — nev...

Being an overly emotional person, I've always been susceptible to easy emotional triggering. It had basically become second nature. Lol. That's when I knew I had to learn  my emotional triggers and regulate myself. Emotional triggers are the things, places, people, or situations that activate intense emotional responses within you.   The root causes of emotional triggers include past experiences, traumas, or deeply held beliefs. All these have the power to instantly activate your "fight-or-flight" response in any situation. When you are triggered, your body and mind immediately decide to either fight or flee as a way of trying to protect you from the perceived danger. You get triggered when present stimuli unconsciously reminds you of past traumatic or difficult events.  When you are triggered, your body and mind immediately decide to either fight or flee as a way of trying to protect you from the perceived danger.  Your brain stores sensory information related...

"Oh, I'll do it later." "I'll do it first thing tomorrow morning." "I'll start working out on Monday." Yeah, right. Lol. Sounds a lot like procrastination to me. Unnecessarily delaying or postponing something is procrastination by definition. To a certain degree, we all do it. Unfortunately, all it does is take your power away from you. It keeps you idle at the cost of the life you could be living or the goals you could be achieving.  Firstly, you need to understand that procrastination goes way beyond laziness. It is deeply rooted in psychology. The biggest factor that causes procrastination is fear of failure. But what if you don't succeed, right? What if you fail? This fear leads you to avoid tasks that you perceive as potentially leading to negative outcomes. Another contributor is anxiety.  I notice that this is a major driver of procrastination in my life. Procrastination can be or feel like a coping mechanism for people who suffer f...

Do you ever catch yourself talking to yourself? Lol. Yes. That is exactly what self-talk is. Self-talk is the act of talking to yourself, be that mentally or aloud. It involves the internal dialogue or thoughts that we have and has the power to either build you up or break you apart.   There are two main self-talk techniques: positive self-talk and negative self-talk. The former fixates on the thoughts that promote optimism, motivation, and self-compassion creating grounds for a positive mindset. In contrast, negative self-talk involves critical, self-deprecating thoughts that can weaken your self-confidence. Here's an example scenario: you are finding it hard to understand Algebra.  Negative self-talk would sound more like this, "I'm so stupid. I'm so slow! Why can't I understand Algebra?"  Positive self-talk would sound like this, "I haven't quite mastered Algebra yet. And that's okay. I'll use this as my opportunity to learn and understand ...